an attempt at something solid.

tasukete:

My initial reaction to this was, “Everyone calm the fuck down.”

But then I thought about it.

It is disturbing that we neither have a term that is equivalent to ‘slut’ that refers to the masculine nor does is the word ‘slut’ gender/sex neutral.

Use of the word ‘slut,’ which is a sex-divisive and subsequently disparaging word, is not good.

If martinmgn.tumblr meant that he doesn’t want to date a woman whose behavioral and moral standards he finds unfavorable, then that is what he should have said — but consider whether that is worth saying. The ‘#respectyourself,’ I think, is well-intended, but that makes this statement an all the more disturbing reflection of what goes on in our real-life and net culture. 

daniel you are the best.

i feel like the idea of “sluts” and the fact that they are frowned upon has a lot to do with the objectification of women and the need of some men to control them.

like the popular double standard: “MY FUTURE BRIDE MUST BE A PURE VIRGIN but yeah i totally fucked all the girls in college. i would never marry those sluts though lolz.”

it has to do with the idea of women as property. no man wants used goods, amirite?

it also echoes the idea of female sexuality being inherently wrong or bad, and that the only way for a women to be pure is if she denies her own sexuality completely.

it’s pretty gross and reminiscent of the 50’s and 60’s. which are actually really fascinating decades for that reason. but i digress. the point is that i get a bit tired of all the female-specific insults, and the way the media is constantly reinforcing this mentality. i appreciate my guy friends that put thought into this and can understand this kind of stuff.

my friends who use words like ‘feminist’ and ‘lesbian’ as if they are hateful insults? not so much. your misogyny is showing. :/

so guys (and porobably-well-meaning-but-still-mildly-offensive guy in the picture), it’s cool if you prefer not to date “slutty girls”. just don’t be totally shocked when ladies you do want to date tell you they don’t want to date misogynists with extremely archaic opinions.